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Lessons from the honeymoon: Play in all things

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Play. ¬†Do you remember that word? ¬†It was a magical time as a kid where you could be and do anything you wanted to. ¬†In the words of Ms. Frizzle from the Magic School Bus, “Take chances, Make Mistakes, Get Messy.” ¬†Play allowed all of this and so much more. ¬†However, as we grew up play became separate from our life. ¬†For example, school clothes were for most of your day while your play clothes were only used briefly. ¬†Boy, did we put in work when the play clothes came out; digging in the dirt, hula hopping, or just building an imaginary Barbie world. ¬†I have realized play time¬†kept getting¬†shorter and shorter and is at the point where I no longer have play clothes at all. ¬†I have “work out clothes” or “yard work clothes”…. no play clothes because as an adult I don’t play. ¬†That is for children.

I’ve had a lot of time to think while on my honeymoon and have been reflecting on this loss of play in my life. ¬†Things are so serious. ¬†Everything is directed towards achievements and maintenance. ¬†As you can imagine this makes for a grumpy, stressed out Elise. ¬†Not what I want or, frankly, what I was designed to be. ¬†I decided while in Miami that play needs to be reintroduced, not just for recess time, but in all things. ¬†As stated in previous posts, we are told to “be as a child,” and in that innocence is truly living.

This notion came upon me while my husband and I were at the zoo. ¬†It was a lot of work, and money, to get there. ¬†I was worried about our schedule and budget. ¬†Then…. it started to rain, like torrential down pour rain. ¬†We hid under our tiny umbrella and then under a gazebo with other families. ¬†I, like I do, was listening to other peoples observations of the storm. ¬†People were frustrated, complaining, and fussing about how long it would take for it to stop raining. ¬†Somehow my mind silenced and drifted to a childhood memory of playing in the rain. ¬†It was such a carefree and effortless moment in my life; it was magic. ¬†Greg and I made the decision to leave the safety and security of the gazebo; we took a private tour of the zoo, playing in the rain. ¬†It is ironic how adults can take the gift of rain or time and make it work. ¬†Life is not work, it can be effortless if you just get out and play in the rain.

I did all other kinds of playful things in Miami but was worried about how I could bring this feeling back with me to my real life.  I decided to be intentional in creating playfulness in my every day life.  I am allowing myself to smile and giggle when my husband kisses me.  I was inspired by my niece to paint without direction and have no qualms about expressing my emotions during the process.  This morning in my yoga practice I focused on how I felt and redirected my patronizing thoughts to playing with my body.  As a kid we fell all the time, and God forbid, laughed about it.  I am aiming to reclaim the place were I allowed myself to play and experience humor in both success and failure.

Now go out and play.  Get messy, make mistakes, and authentically embrace every moment of it.

 

Safety

Let’s take a minute to talk about safety. ¬†The reason we don’t move forward with most things in life is fear and lack of trust. ¬†This has been talked about over and over in my posts. ¬†But how do you identify safety in a world that is full of trap doors? ¬†It’s a hard one, but it becomes clear when¬†train your brain to see reality and not your past.

Unfortunately this distinction is not¬†always¬†clear; even if you don’t flashback to an actual event you may revisit a similar feeling from a prior situations in which you felt taken advantage of, hoodwinked, bamboozled, had‚Ķ Skills can be learned to bring yourself back to the present moment to really identify what your needs are and if it’s a safe situation to get those met. Many times, I have to take a deep breath and say, “Elise, it is ok. ¬†_____ would never do anything to hurt you. ¬†What is it that you want right now?” The second part of this is to listen. ¬†The same way I’ve talked about listening to your authentic self applies here. ¬†Your inner voice not only tells you your dreams but also if those around you are safe people to nurture you.

This is difficult, but not impossible. ¬†Still after 6 years and a wedding this weekend I have remind myself daily that my fianc√© is not “out to take advantage of me” but his only desire is to shower me with unconditional love. ¬†Unconditional love means that my needs are above his and by nurturing me to get my needs met, he is fulfilled. ¬†It’s amazing and scary for me at the same time. ¬†However, I just have to close my eyes and say to myself, “Greg is safe. ¬†He loves me and has never shown me otherwise. I am safe.”

Who makes you safe and do you interact with them in a way that allows you to safely grow? ¬†Be vulnerable with them because they are safe forces in your life whose purpose is not to let you fall. ¬†When you acknowledge, accept, and explore your reality you will begin to experience ¬†true security, safety, and freedom. ¬† I’ll be back to do more writing, reflecting, and art post wedding! Everyone enjoy your safety.

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Unmet Expectations

I have heard before, and have been a strong proponent, of how important it is to make a goal. ¬†By having something you’re striving for you can find the underlying motivation to keep going. ¬†However, in addition to having a goal it is important to remember two things:¬†is your goal your REAL goal and to consider the stress that comes with unmet expectations.

Most of the time we make goals that are arbitrary like I’m going to weigh this weight or I’m going to make more money. ¬†We do this without actually identifying the core goal: to feel more confident or to have more freedom to do things. ¬†By not having the insight for our REAL goals, we either eventually lose stem because we get distracted or if we meet our goal it doesn’t fulfill our expectations because it wasn’t the thing we were REALLY looking for.

The idea of unmet expectations was something I’ve never thought about before. ¬†This is what can lead us to feeling unsuccessful, worthless, helpless, and generally crappy about ourselves. ¬†We develop the feeling of learned helplessness because nothing we do ever fills the void, our expectations continually don’t get met. ¬†I believe this is because we focus too much on the “what” or “how” and not the real “why” we make a decision to move. ¬†The “what” may evolve into a million different possibilities, but the “why” can be fulfilled by any of them; the key is we have to be flexible.

I don’t DO flexible, at least not anymore. ¬†I have settled into a state of rigidity and patterns that make me feel safe. ¬†The funny things is that I don’t feel safe, I just feel scared of never reaching where I want to be.¬†¬†What this has actually ¬†done is limit my potential and fill me with that continual feeling of unmet expectations. ¬†My expectations are unmet because my routine does not allow for the “what” or even the “how” to change to reach my “why.” Through a variety of self-healing activities I am constantly pushing myself to let go of the reins and trust I will get to wherever I’m suppose to if I, you guessed it, listen to myself and breathe. ¬†My expectations may not be what is actually going to fulfill me. ¬†I have to let that go and remember my “why” and just keep putting one step in front of the other.

What’s my “why”? ¬†My “why” is to be an example of the healing¬†found with self-expression and encourage others to do the same in whatever way they want to honor their voice. ¬†It does not have to be through art, be flexible on the medium and it will be the right fit for you. ¬†What is your “why” and how can you give yourself permission to loosen up on the “what” or “how”?

 

-> I’ve been allowing this to translate into my art recently. ¬†Adding to projects I’ve started based on feeling. ¬†I’m liking where it’s going but have no concrete expectation on what it will become. ¬†It is so much less pressure and enjoyable. ¬†I also am finding the more I let go, the better the product is. ¬†Maybe I’m not always right after all.

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Introverting is OK‚Ķ Listening is key

All my life I’ve thought being an introvert was a bad thing. ¬†I thought it was selfish;¬†something must be wrong with me to want some space. ¬†Through the practice of meditation and turning off distractions (TV, bad radio) I’ve really started to listen to my true voice. I need space to refuel. ¬†I need to create. ¬†I need to read. ¬†I need to breath without feeling like someone else has already claimed that breath for themselves. ¬†It is completely ok to need “me” time. ¬†My voice is loud and clear. I realize more and more when I don’t listen, I scream and throw tantrums like a child (usually with food).

By allowing myself to turn inward I’ve gotten a TON of art ideas and have a growing list of songs to learn on the guitar and piano. ¬†It’s nice to have a non-pressured to-do list just for me. ¬†It is important to take the time that you have and turn that wisdom into fruition. ¬†Time blocking is important sure, but I’m realizing more and more that there are pockets of time throughout the day to get a tune up. ¬†I’ve even started sketching and/or meditating at work between clients. ¬†Sure I get less paperwork done, but guess what, it’ll get done and I actually will have the positive attitude to do it. ¬†When you listen to yourself and breathe into your needs, as I’ve mentioned in previous posts, things happen effortlessly. ¬†Who would have thought? It is really THAT simple.

In addition to trying to listen, I’ve been thinking a lot about boundaries. ¬†Often I hold my breath, tell myself to be quiet, and uphold other people’s boundaries to be a good little girl. ¬†I’m quickly learning not only is this a horrible way to live life, it is suffocating. ¬†In the pursuit of strengthening my voice I’ve become attuned to boundaries for myself. ¬†Alone time is needed. ¬†I need to be heard and respected. ¬†I need to take care of myself through a variety of things. ¬†The biggest gem I’ve gotten in the past week is visualizing boundaries like a house. ¬†Some things are solid and unchanging like a wall and the statements made above, however, some are flexible like a door opening and closing into your home. ¬†For me, that may be HOW I take care of myself: today it may be yoga, tomorrow it may be a piece of cake. The solid wall boundary for this is to listen to my body and honor it’s requests (sometimes cake is not ok because I need more nourishment; my body will tell me what kind of moment it is). ¬†Other flexible doors are how much time I want to spend with people. ¬†Things aren’t black and white. ¬†There is grey and I am learning where to draw lines and where to shade. ¬†It is calming and it is effortless at times.

Our minds are so powerful to identify our true needs, desires, and boundaries.  We should honor that ancient voice inside us.  A good tip to stay aligned with out inner voice is to journal.  It keeps you aware of your inner most thoughts and gives you a place to put your great ideas until you are ready to act on them.  A vital part of a relationship is listening, do you have a healthy relationship with yourself?

Doodles May 2014

Doodles May 2014

 

Yield to Yourself, It’s Awesome.

It’s been about 3 weeks since I’ve posted. ¬†WAY TO LONG. ¬†I took some time to get things straight for the upcoming wedding and also pushing myself to make some art/create great music. ¬†Several things have happened during this hiatus. ¬†I was able to start meditating again and have really worked to reframe my state of mind. ¬†I spend so much time judging myself and expecting myself to do things a certain way that I don’t actually do them. ¬†I need to have distractions taken care of (cleaning, to do lists, wedding checklists, friends I’ve neglected‚Ķ. you get the point) before I let myself yield¬†to myself. ¬†I’m beginning to recognize how backwards this is. ¬†If I breath into myself and listen to the voice that I try so hard to shut off, all the pieces will fall. ¬†Sure it won’t be smooth all the time, but it will all happen without my trying. ¬†I’ll be living it. ¬†There comes a time where you just have to get out of your own way. ¬†So when my mind races, obviously I have a great idea and I need to at least put it down somewhere. ¬†When I’m stressed about nothing, I need to focus on right now to put my fears in check. ¬†I’ve watched my fianc√© and I grow over the past month and truly be fulfilled because we are making music, singing, writing, and yielding to our true nature. ¬†All the things I’ve kept discovering about myself over the past few weeks and through writing all lead me to the same conclusion. I am fine. I am creative. ¬†I am talented. ¬†I will be ok as long as I’m myself. ¬†God created me beautifully and the more I push against that, the less productive and at peace I am. ¬†Thanks for your patience while I continue to increase the volume on what I already know. ¬†Remember, to take the time to listen to yourself and do things the way you do them. ¬†It’s ok. ¬†If you’re really listening to yourself you’ll hear all the infinite answers you’ve ever wondered.

April 20, 2014. Colored Pencils

April 20, 2014. Colored Pencils

 

Quotables and Intentional Focus

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Today I am on vacation. Yes a real one. Great people are around, I am in the middle of nowhere, and I am feeling peaceful.  The best part about right now… is that everyone is still sleeping and I get a getaway within a getaway.  I get my morning.  I get my coffee. I get to reflect on what is.

This past week I have used two of my favorite quotes in therapy.¬† ‚ÄúIt is not things that upset man, but the view which they take of them,‚ÄĚ by Epictetus and ‚ÄúWhen I let go of what I am, I become who I might be.‚Ä̬† I‚Äôm unsure who wrote the last one, but I do know I loved the quote so much I got it tattooed on my side in college.¬† I wanted to always remember that my authentic self was a constant part of me; I wanted to push myself to let go of all the labels I‚Äôve put upon myself and just be.¬† I have revisited these quotes many times over the past few years to remind myself I have control over my thoughts and choices.

We have the ability to redirect our thoughts to a place that is beneficial for us.¬† Yes there will be times where our thoughts are scary or brutally honest, but those are safeguards built inside humans to keep us safe. Those thoughts are beneficial. However, a lot of the time (at least for me) my thoughts put up an alarm when there is no threat or overestimate the possibility of threat.¬† Those thoughts are not founded on any proof but fueled by doubt and crippling fear. Thoughts like these can completely change your experience with anything and keep you in a ‚Äúwhat‚ÄĚ state of being, burdened by labels and an inability to live like a free human. Your life then becomes under the control of something else; you in fact become an object.

In the spirit of lessons I learn from my clients and the message I received in church this week, I tried very hard to put my fear aside and to really redirect my thoughts yesterday. The trip up the mountain was scary and thank GOD it was dark and I couldn‚Äôt see how high we were. Despite all that, in the passenger seat I wanted to have a panic attack.¬† I said to myself, ‚ÄúNot today. You don‚Äôt have fear.¬† There is no evidence I can fall off this mountain. Bri (my neighbor) has driven up here before.¬† The great state of North Carolina would have shut off the road if it wasn‚Äôt safe to drive on. God is protecting you.‚ÄĚ It was not easy at first but I just kept singing Mumford and Sons, took deep breaths, and let myself have a life experience.¬† Is it necessary something I want to do every day, hell no, but it did prove Epictetus‚Äô point.¬† I changed my view and I got up the mountain.

I kept thinking about other areas I can be intentional in reducing areas fear keeps me trapped instead of accepting each breath as my own, fueling who I am. ¬†I remembered how I hold my shoulders up tight alllllllll the time, which is a sign that an animal is in defense mood (if I were a dog my hair would always be standing up), and how I constantly hold my stomach in to not feel fat.¬† ‚ÄúWhat is the point Elise? You are with good friends and in pretty good health. Let those shoulders down, there is nothing to worry about in this very moment, and if there were then be uptight then. No one cares if your stomach sticks out some.¬† If it bothers you that much go do some sit ups and put down your vacation beer.‚Ä̬† I had this conversation, well monologue, with myself this morning in the shower.¬† So today, I will breathe. I will let it all hang out. I will work on my view of things so the thing itself does not become bigger than it is.¬† Most of all, I refuse to be an object, a what, and embrace each breath as my own because this is my life‚Ķ I am connecting to who I have always been.¬†

This week, take time to really connect with the moment.  Be intentional about your thoughts as that is the blessing and the curse of being human. Remember what you might be is really who you are right now under all that junk, breathe and let him/her exhale. Holding your breath sucks.

 

Point of Clarification: Communication Required

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I admit I was not accountable to my system this past week.  In fact I was SO unaccountable that I didn’t do it all.  However, I did notice that I was more intentional with where I directed my energy in the mornings.  I took time to eat breakfast, do my hair (which is a big accomplishment with all these curls), and get dressed.  I set things in motion to feel more productive.  I accomplished much of the goals I’ve been aiming for… but still I did not follow my plan.

Before getting upset (well before I got too upset) with myself, I realized that I forgot a CRUCIAL piece to the puzzle.  I made the system. Check.  I realized I needed to be held accountable.  Check.  I wrote about my revelations. Check.  I told my fiancé of his new responsibility to push me out of bed each morning to do yoga/meditate/workout/anything…..Whoops. Telling the person holding you accountable WOULD be helpful if you want your plan to actually work.  So a week later, after reading my last post and having lengthy discussions about my system and his system, a plan is in place that can work for both of us. 

Something important to mention is whoever is your ‚Äúperson,‚ÄĚ the one whom you have entrusted the gift to kick you in the behind once in a while, must be someone you trust.¬† They must listen fully to your dreams, validate them, and equally make a commitment to be in your corner.¬† No one wants a part time coach, you‚Äôd be better off alone.¬† When you have a part time coach, you can often feel even more alone than actually being alone because you now you have a false sense of support.¬†

I was thinking this week about when I was younger and all the dreams I had.¬† I just KNEW I was going to be a musician.¬† I was going to write music for myself and others, sing all the time, play multiple instruments, and live my life on the high of melodies.¬† I trusted this dream with the wrong people, who did a realistic river dance on my plans.¬† Despite what my career assessments said (my number one job for the Strong Interest Inventory is a musician btw), I need a much more stable path.¬† The arts are for you‚Äôre ‚Äútime off,‚ÄĚ which without great effort is a magical notion.

It is vital to find those who you feel safe communicating with to help nurture your vision.  With the right people in your corner, all parts of you can be fed and realistic plans can be put in place to make your purpose in life a reality.  Now, it may not always look like you want it or your person may tell you some news you don’t want to hear.  Even with all of that, you’ll know the suggestions are from a place of honest support, a source of alternative pathways, and aimed to build confidence in your ability to pick whichever fork in the road you wish.   

Communicate your dreams. ¬†Kids aren’t afraid to say it, don’t you be either. ¬†

*** Again, hoover over image for a link to my artwork page.  Thanks for your support. 

The Road Not Taken‚Ķ. Consistently

Image“The Road Not Taken” Robert Frost

“Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference. ”

I do not feel like “somewhere ages and ages hence: two roads diverged in a ¬†wood.” ¬†I find myself at this fork in the road … consistently, over and over again, currently. ¬†In the wake of unplanned tragedies and loss opportunities, I wanted to pick a path and move forward by focusing on things that are in my control. ¬†However, I could not figure out why I have been trying to “gain control” over things in my life for so long. ¬†Then it hit me. ¬†I may venture down the road less traveled but I get lost due to veering off course and end up defeated; therefore, I always turn back to the same fork in the road I started from. ¬†I lack a plan and consistency.

I venture to guess most of us feel as if we work harder at some aspect of our daily lives then we should. ¬†I venture to guess most of us get started on goals only to be detoured by a doughnut. ¬†I venture to guess most of us repeat this cycle over and over again leaving us so burnt out that we just stop trying. ¬†My fire was reignited this week when I was truly blessed by attending a 3 day training on real estate investing by Fortune Builders. ¬†Cole Hatter was the speaker; he recharged my battery which had been running on fumes. ¬†Although real estate is my fianc√©’s passion (maybe mine too now), I took several things away from the course that I can apply to my life as a whole. ¬†The three biggies for me were having a system to follow, consistently following your system, and being reminded of your “why.”

Of course this seems simple enough, right? Make a plan, follow it, and use your purpose as your driving force, piece of cake. ¬†Not! About the only things I do consistently is not follow my plan. ¬†I began to think about speed bumps that stop my progress. ¬†The initial problem is I have not sat down to really think about a system. ¬†Sure I have over analyzed my life to death, calculating for this and that, but I have not taken the time to freely create a system that I will naturally¬†follow. ¬†I need a basic routine using the information I’ve gained from personal insight and barriers to success, based on the success of others, and simple enough to be followed CONSISTENTLY. ¬†To find this system, I opted to review previous posts to find direction.

In my prior post on “Body Language and Life’s Unknowns” I discussed the idea of listening to your internal voice; each day while conducting therapy I encourage people to trust their instincts. ¬†Often our bodies and our minds can act as a compass and help us get back on our path/plan. ¬†Even if your body is silent, someone else has undoubtedly created a system before you; find out and use it as a starting point. ¬†The biggest thing to creating a plan you will naturally follow is to build in safeguards that encourage you to listen to yourself or others for support. ¬†Without this, a plan is useless. ¬†For example, I pay for a personal trainer not because I don’t know what to do but to be held accountable to a proven system. ¬†I have to listen to someone and sometimes get a kick in the behind to stay on course. ¬†External accountability can help you develop healthy boundaries to increase your success.

Lastly, remembering our “why” can help us overcome whatever excuses we can come up with in the moment. ¬†I also referenced this idea in my first post “Get IT Together Fleming.” ¬†Not only was Cole’s “why” inspiring, it pushed me think beyond simply wanting to better myself but how I wanted to make an impact on a wider audience. ¬†This why must be so important to you that it is bigger than your distractions; mine is becoming just that. ¬†It has become apparent to me that I have most of the skills I’ve needed (a plan, some accountability, and a “why”) to move forward and it took a complete stranger to put it all into place. ¬†Thank you Cole Hatter for helping me consider using these ideas as a part of system to move forward with ease.

The key is to follow your system consistently, dodging self-excuses, to see the results of cumulative efforts. ¬†This is how you avoid being stuck. ¬†¬†Accountability and consistency are what I have been missing for many personal and lifestyle goals. ¬†This was the piece of the map that was torn off at the very spot I continue to get distracted by immediate fun, loosing track of the destination. ¬†The lack of accountability was my easy way to “just this once” not follow my plan, have loose boundaries, and ultimately get lost. ¬†After brief moments of bliss, I always end up walking back to the starting line with my tail between my legs.

I have learned that by integrating knowledge of clear, natural systems for me WITH BEING HELD ACCOUNTABLE I can take the road less traveled by daily, and that will make all the difference.

To combat this cycle, I am giving myself one task this week to build an efficient self-system: go to bed at a decent time so I can use my mornings like I want. I know from self-examination and other people’s suggestions that getting things done in the morning that are important to me, like exercise or meditation, can lead to a more peaceful day. ¬†My fianc√©¬†will help hold me accountable to this plan even when my TV show comes on at 10 PM. ¬†¬†My “why” for wanting to develop a daily system is to show others that through simple changes, you can be your authentic self, thus, avoiding unnecessary stress. ¬†I’ve seen way to many people be taken captive by this and I’d like to take the road less traveled. ¬†At the end of the week, I will evaluate my system for necessary changes.

This journey is gaining momentum. I am thankful for the messages sent to me throughout this process and am looking forward to consistently leisurely mornings, just the way I like them.

Stay Focused on your goals and take risks; with a clear path, maps, and support you can only be detoured if you choose to! ¬†What’s your system, how do you plan to hold yourself accountable, and why is it important to you?

* Note about the image above: This was done as an exploratory exercise last year.  I am beginning to understand the way to grow up from the little girl trapped in the house, is to take a step forward one day at a time.  The consistent effort will lead me beyond my wildest dreams. Hoover over the image for a link to a better view.  Thanks for your support.

Silence, Sunrise, and Stillness

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Date Unknown.

 

Mornings are my favorite time of day. ¬†The light playfully peeking through my curtains, the fullness of breath that my body allows me to inhale after a restoring rest, and the unthreatening stillness that fills my thoughts are magical experiences. ¬†That silence is the illustrious peace I’ve been on the hunt for throughout my adult life. ¬†Mornings are full of freedom seen in the steam rising form my tea, the pinks and purples in the sky that will later settle to blue, and freeing breath without weight of anxiety. ¬†Mornings are my favorite time of day.¬†

You would think with that said, I woke up every morning to see the sunrise. ¬†That I made it my “it” to experience that stillness of breath that occurs when the sunlight kisses my soul and fully step into peaceful silence. ¬†Nope. ¬†I wake up in just enough time to shower, eat a healthy (ish) breakfast, and run out the door. ¬†My lists begin the moment I hear my alarm and press snooze ‚Ķ every‚Ķ. 5 ‚Ķ. minutes. ¬†No wonder silence appears camouflaged; I fly right past it each morning and miss my favorite blessing, all the while wondering why I panic. ¬†If it were a snake‚Ķ.¬†

Finding silence, sunrise, and stillness is part active, part passive, part other focused, and part self-focused. ¬†I was reminded of the balance between activity versus passivity and other focus versus self focus this week at work. ¬†Neither pole is right or wrong. ¬†What is vital is to choose how far on the continuum you want to lean based on each situation and if it is the most beneficial. ¬† You recognize that you have to actively chose to be in the present, be passive enough to let the present envelop you, recognize how this may or may not impact others/how others may benefit from a similar practice, but mostly take the time to reset yourself and accept what you feel in that very moment. ¬†It’s a balance. ¬†A balance that can only be heard in the stillness of a sunrise and the silent moment you allow yourself to have. ¬†

Although Saturday mornings, like today, allow you to fully embrace all that a sunrise has to offer, there are ways to incorporate this feeling into your every day. ¬†It is important to accept the blessings of silence, sunrise, and stillness to reset yourself to achieve whatever purpose that may be for you. ¬†Recall your “it” is something that happens each moment, each day, and each project; “It” is revolving and you must reset yourself to be fully present and go.

 Ways to breathe in some silence, sunrise, and stillness daily:

  • Focused breathing allows you to calm your body and redirect your focus. ¬†Try breathing in and out deeply until you feel more settled.
  • Meditation is one of my favorites. ¬†For beginners, focus on your breath and how various parts of your body are tense. ¬†As you notice this tension mentally agree to let the tension seep out of you into the ground with each breath out. Start with as little as a 5 minutes.
  • Wake up and have you time each morning; have you time at night before bed. ¬†Anything that helps you imagine a new beginning to reset.
  • Lastly, stretching daily can incorporate all the benefits gained during this time of day. ¬†It allows you to breathe, still your mind, and focus on the new possibilities your body is preparing for, just like a sunrise. ¬†

 

I’m off to experience my sunrise, embrace this stillness in my soul, and be at peace with silence. ¬†Some good art may come out of this. Stay tuned.¬†

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Date Unknown.

Taking out the Trash

Date Unknown

2009

I woke up today as I usually do, checking Instagram and Facebook. ¬†I go to bed the same way after watching an hour or so of what I lovingly call “trash” TV. ¬†Earlier this week my fianc√©’ and I had a discussion about what we expose ourselves to. ¬†I immediately replied, “I need trash!! My job is stressful.” ¬†To which he aggressively (passionately he says) replied, “No you don’t.”

As much as I hate to admit when he’s right and I’m wrong, he is right. ¬†(See love, I said it publicly, I can’t take it back.) We, men and women alike, spend WAY too much of our time dreaming. ¬†Dreaming and hating about how others are living their lives, wanting to have that much dedication to be in great shape, wanting to manage your time better to be able to do your passion full-time, wanting to have enough courage to be yourself, and wanting to receive some of that inspiration as if osmosis worked with the internet. ¬†This is how things like Fitspo, YouTube, and other sites (in addition to TV shows) keep their lights on, they’re fueled by our lack of action. ¬† The more we stay put, on the couch or checking posts while driving, the further away we get from being awesome.

I for one hope to become a force to be reckoned with. ¬†I want the body so fit you don’t understand how I also have a job as a therapist, I want my insides to be as healthy as my outsides, I want to inspire others to take care of themselves holistically, I want to create original art and music, I want to be a good wife, sibling, daughter, aunt, friend, and eventual mother, I want to do my best at whatever I put my mind to. ¬†So yea, I don’t need trash. ¬†It keeps me in the garbage and away from reach my dreams every day.

I hope it for real snows so I can get a reset button, focus on today’s “it” (organize my life) so I can get a handle on “it” and move on to maximizing my God given potential. ¬†This way, there is always a reason to celebrate and not a reason to hate on others or myself ūüôā Don’t hate, accomplish. ¬†Identify your barriers, your trash, and get it out of your house! A clean house is a free mind.

Suggestions to Cleaning “House”:

(1) Take an internet / social media break/ TV / YouTube break, it will help you be thankful for what you have and find time to use your talents to relax.  Make an active change to invest in yourself.

(2) Identify other barriers, create a space for them, and leave them there when the time is over (set a timer even!); it will really help you focus on what is happening around you and not on your to-do list.

(3) Breathe.  Mediate. Pray. Repeat.

(4) Make sure there are a few minutes in your day for yourself each morning; It can be as simple as shower time or drinking a cup of tea, but make sure it’s there. ¬†It can help arm you from the trap of distractions (the trash) and focus you on your purpose for the day.

(5) Have fun!! Avoiding trash will open your life up to new possibilities, real people, and real experiences. ¬†Don’t be scared to make a mistake, if you don’t you’re not living. ¬†Take each moment for what it is and be there with your whole heart.

Enjoy.